Giving love magnifies you... even if others don't appreciate it

 

I would be lying if I say that I have never complained about having wasted my love on someone who didn't deserve it. Of course I did, and I've also heard some of my friends and many strangers on the internet complaining about the same reason. Many quotes on Pinterest say that you deserve what you give others, but we all know that most times life isn't like that. Most times, life just won't give you back what you expect.

When we are in love, we usually think that we want to make the other person happy, that's why we give some intangible but no less important presents such as time, affection, and most important: commitment. We give those because we want, because the other person is important to us and they make us feel loved. Hence, we want to make them feel loved as well. 

BUT...

What happens when they dump you? What happens when they commit a mistake that makes it impossible for you to accept any apologies later on? First, you don't believe it. Then, you feel deceived... and then hatred joins the bunch of emotions and feelings you have been experienced since the other person decided to leave with vacuous explanations, or worse, leaving without having any decency or respect towards you, the time you shared, and the hopes they gave you.

Many people talk about closing cycles as if it was something easy to do, but sometimes, life won't give you the closure that you want. You can never know a person completely, and the person you once loved can suddenly change and they aren't probably going to have the guts or decency to say sorry for what they did and and give you a chance to say good bye before leaving. They usually just leave real quick amidst pure cowardice, leaving you undone. 

I know firsthand what it is to feel like that, what it is to feel your love was wasted and taken for granted. You might think from time to time that all the time, affection and commitment you gave them is a crumpled up piece of paper in this moment... and it might be for them, but you shouldn't let that make you feel like less of a human being.

It took me some time to understand this: even if a person took your love for granted and deceived you, the love that you so selflessly gave is always going to magnify you, and the fact that you were capable to love another human being in that way should make you feel valuable and special. I learned that you will never be enough for some people... but you can be enough for you and the people who truly love you without being so hard on yourself and trying so hard to impress.

I just hope these words can help you feel better, 'cause you are amazing and worthy of love. I hope someday you find a Lover who values you, deserves you and appreciates you for everything you are. I hope you remember these words when you are in a dark place, thinking you're not enough. 

-L